Sunday, August 23, 2009

It was a beautiful wedding...and I'm pissed!

That basically sums up my experience at a wedding "A" and I attended yesterday. It was the wedding of a long-time friend of A's; they went to nursing school together and have been through many relationship up/downs together too. I have also come to know this person fairly well over the last 10 years. It's the one wedding I attended this summer that I was truly looking forward to-we were going to have a great I thought.

Now don't get me wrong, the wedding was beautiful, the groom handsome, and the bride was beautiful...on the outside anyway. We did meet a few friendly people and actually an invitation to a BBQ

A and I arrive at the reception and wait for the bride and groom to arrive. So far we are having a great time, just the two of us, sitting in a back corner flirting with each other and people-watching. We had a little fun putting on a show for a co-worker of the bride and her idiot boyfriend. When we were at the church, she said "hello" in passing and then quickly whispered to idiot BF about (hush) "the lesbians". He then proceeded to practically dislocate his neck trying to check us out. F***in' IDIOT! He then leered at us the rest of the evening.

When the bride and groom arrived we made several attempts to approach them to offer our congratulations but were basically snubbed and treated rudely. Of course A is oblivious to this after 4 Kinnegans, but I kept watching. I don't believe I saw a sincere smile from the bride the entire evening. As the evening progressed several others made comments about how "stiff" and "rude" they were and "impossible to talk to". Even family members commented on how happy they were to have the wedding over-too much stress!

Anyway, I woke up this morning really pissed, not about their behavior toward us but the way they took their wedding for granted. They have the option to marry whoever they want but A and I can't. I would love to be able to marry the beautiful, wonderful woman who is the other half of my soul but I don't have that option. I guarantee if I ever get to have my marriage I will celebrate it with more joy than I witnessed yesterday.

One bonus though...I got to wear my really hot heels that A loves ;)


Sarcastic Bastard said...

You are two consenting adults, and you sure as hell should be allowed to marry. I don't know why people can't just leave other people alone and mind their own damn business.

I have enjoyed reading your blog, and think that it is extremely kind of you to foster dogs. You are clearly a sweet person.

Best, SB.

Ms. Moon said...

I'm with Ms. Bastard. Well, I wish I was with Ms. Bastard but what I mean to say is, I agree with her.
And yes, you did get to wear your heels. I don't know why people have such stressful weddings in the first place- gay, straight or undecided. I say forget that wedding stuff, have a nice little party/ceremony and then spend money on the most fabulous honeymoon ever.
Well. That's just me.