Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Getting Facebook Bitchy

And I don't give a fuck who I piss off either.

My dear friend Ash (who was married last year in Jamaica) is expecting her first baby in June. What I love about Ash is that she's a smart, tell-it-like-it-is, no bullshit kind of person. I know she's going to be that kind of parent too. But like all first time mothers (I imagine), she's nervous and questioning and finding her way.

Anyway, today on Facebook she posted pictures of her nursery. Two simple pictures started a fire-storm of criticism. Someone started by asking if it was or was not okay to have bumpers on the crib and then it went on and on from there. Every know-it-all on FB had to throw in their opinion but one bitch really pissed me off. She started out talking about how she works for the state and has investigated many SIDS deaths (her FB profile says she's a secretary for the state) and that you only do things this way and lay your baby that way and NEVER take your baby in bed with you and that's what's best because those are the laws for every daycare in the state, yadda, yadda, yadda.

Maybe I'm just feeling bitchy tonight but it just pissed me off. I'm so annoyed with the fact that some people think that just because a woman is pregnant, she's suddenly public property. Pregnant and new mothers can be so vulnerable because they are inexperienced and anxious. Then you have people who come into the situation and feed into those anxieties. So some women end up constantly worrying about doing something wrong instead of following their instincts and enjoying the experience. I made some smart ass comment on FB about how I don't know how women have managed to have babies since the beginning of time without the "help" of government regulations. And that Adam and Eve are lucky they made it through before someone made all the rules

Then I sent Ash a message to follow her instincts. I know she's going to be a great mommy. And I love her response to the bitch. It went something like; as parents we all want the best for our children and I have read the recommendations and they keep changing every year. These are guidelines and the ultimate decisions are made by the parents based on the needs of their child. You tell'em Ash!


Sarcastic Bastard said...

I HATE the Facebook. May I just say that?

I also hate the government. May I just that, also?

But I love you and A. shitloads.


Ms. Moon said...


Redbone210 said...

2 kids in - let me say...I HATE when people chime in and undermine new mother's confidence.

Your advice to your friend was spot on - follow your instincts. They are what guide you at 3AM with a croupy, crying baby. Where is Little Miss Know it All Facebook then?

~~kym~~ said...

your advice to your friend was perfect...people always feel the need to put their 2 cents in all time regardless of the situation.
it really is all about instinct...i'm sure your friend will be great!

C.I.W. said...

I love and hate facebook a TON...for just the reason you explained.

Step off... asshats. I don't care if you like my hair in this picture or not- or if you don't think I should wear that color or vote for who I wanna.

You are a good friend to your friend... that is cool :)

Kat said...

Screw Facebook. Privacy is dead.

And I slept with my offspring and guess what? They didn't die! Or get rolled over on or left on a bus 'cuz I forgot I had 'em!!

Bethany said...

I'm with you.
Facebook sucks a lot.
Loved your comments and Ash's.