Monday, November 9, 2009

Random Weekend Update

My weekend was a mix of the good, the bad, and the ugly; not necessarily in that order.

Friday is usually my day. I have the house to myself, sleep in, hang out with the dogs and basically just do what I want. I really NEED that time. It makes me a better, more pleasant person. I know how spoiled I am to only work four days a week and I am thankful I have that option.

This Friday I had to spend the day with my father and doctors; doctors who have different opinions and keep changing their minds about treatment. My father was behaving in his normal obnoxious manner but I was not in any state of mind to deal with him; my patience has worn thin. I wish I could describe his behavior in a way others could truly comprehend what I'm dealing with but honestly there are no words. You would have to experience him yourself.

Saturday I would have done nearly anything to stay in bed and avoid an entire day of continuing education. As if giving up my Saturday wasn't bad enough, I had to get up extra early and put up with the bitches from work all day! The actual classes were fine but it's these women's constant complaining and criticism and droning on about teething, car seats and how much the men in their life don't live up to their expectations. By lunch I found a way to accidently-on-purpose get separated from them. Yeah, a peaceful lunch to myself!

I came home Saturday night in a sad state. A just watched me as I went through the normal motions around the house. She always knows my mood but doesn't pressure me to talk. She knows I will start when I'm ready. After a few hours to gather my thoughts, I cuddled up on the couch beside her and just let it out. I cried and talked and then cried some more. She hates to see me cry and always wants to fix everything but what I really needed was to just let it out. I'm considering taking a family medical leave at work since my immediate supervisor is acting like an ass about the time I've been taking off work to deal with my father's illness. I want to continue working but if she's not willing to work with me, then I will just have to take the time off. When I started talking to her about 6 weeks of daily radiation treatments and chemotherapy she immediately started telling me that there was no way my family should expect me to take all that time off and my siblings need to step up. That's when she started crossing the line but she jumped over it when she had the nerve to tell me to try to schedule my father's colon removal surgery for a day when my boss is out of the office. Seriously, talk about tacky!! Everyone else in the office understands but this woman has no empathy. The fact is that the majority of us will one day be in the position where we will need to take care of a spouse or family member. I hope I'm around when it's her turn!

Sunday I finally got to sleep in, we did some cuddling, had some hot sex and did some shopping. As you can imagine, I was feeling more like my normal self. It was a sunny beautiful day and an unusually warm 70 degrees on Minnesota. We had to go grocery shopping and at the store A found these tiny bananas.

Just a picture to try to give a little perspective. I have small hands. My ring is a size 4.5 and I always wear small gloves.

Finally I want to share with you how difficult it was to type this post. When I came home Saturday, A informed me the "T" key had come off the keyboard.

When I asked what happened I got the answer she was just typing and it popped off. She had the key laying beside the computer and I asked if all the pieces were there. "Oh yeah, everything is there". I tried to replace it but no luck. I went online and found a how-to video. Now I knew I didn't have all the pieces. She still swears all the pieces are there that came off. I took off another key and showed her 2 pieces were missing. Well the final conclussion is that some how in this house those pieces magically disappeared. So I ordered a new key and it will be here later this week. It is an inexpensive thing to fix but I never realized how many words use the letter "T".


Dawg said...

The "T" button eh? LOL
Can't you glue the thing back on?

Mini banana's .. I love those since I hardly ever eat an entire banana.

Jen said...

Sorry to hear that your weekend didn't start off so good :( My family and I take care of my great grandmom to keep her out of a nursing home and it is no easy task. Sending all positive thoughts your way.

And the bananas are super cute!

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Sorry to hear of your troubles. I really am. My parents are still both in good shape, and I am thankful for that. You are right though--everybody's time comes.

Sending love,


Mel's Way or No Way said...

Jen and SB thanks for your good thoughts and support.

Dawg-it did cross my mind about trying to glue that key back on. I do need a new computer but I don't want to buy one this week :)

Jude said...

That's a shame that you're not getting your manager's support. We call it work-life balance and for the most part work out balance's life but there are times when it needs to be the other way around. Hoping things will go better for you. It's hard seeing a parent go through health issues.

Love those bananas.

I would try popping out the Z or X key and sticking it on the missing T until your replacement comes in.

Mel's Way or No Way said...

Jude, you're a genius!

tommy said...

Hehe...I felt like I never typed a word with the letter "L" in it until my L key started sticking and wouldn't type...then my "fixing" it actually broke it off completely...what the hell was I to do, just _ove some one, _augh out _oud, _o_, I was a _ittle pissed off. I'm sorry you had such a rough weekend and even more sorry that it's taken me so damn long to get caught up on what's going on in your part of the world... 70 in minnesota huh...I didn't think it got above 45 out this time of year....HEAT WAVE...ha